{"id":613,"date":"2022-09-22T02:15:53","date_gmt":"2022-09-22T02:15:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/realequityip.com\/?p=613"},"modified":"2022-09-22T02:43:32","modified_gmt":"2022-09-22T02:43:32","slug":"change-your-life-by-living-in-the-gain","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/realequityip.com\/change-your-life-by-living-in-the-gain","title":{"rendered":"Change Your Life By Living in the Gain"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

For this newsletter, I want to share a book that’s had some great impact for Brett and I. This aligns with what we\u2019re trying to accomplish as we\u2019re striving to \u201cwalk out\u201d what we\u2019re talking about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cThe Gap and The Gain<\/a><\/strong>\u201d is a really amazing book by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy, that is inspiring us in a few aspects of our life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The theme is simple yet powerful\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unsuccessful people focus on \u201cThe Gap,\u201d but successful people focus on \u201cThe Gain.\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I wanted to talk about just a couple of key insights<\/strong> that I\u2019ve gathered from this book. You often hear me talk about \u201cmindset\u201d in our previous newsletters.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we\u2019ve talked about before, your mindset is so important because it can transform everything in your life \u2014 past, present, and future.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s because your mindset is all a matter of perspective, one that affects your actions. How?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way you view your experiences\u2026 (Your past)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What you think of yourself and learned because of those experiences\u2026 (Your present)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

All determines how you\u2019ll grow and strive to create a better version of yourself\u2026 (Your future)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It\u2019s not always easy to operate from a positive mindset.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

For me and Brett, one of the more negative things that we have found ourselves doing is comparing ourselves to so many different people’s level of success in the syndication real estate arena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are our wins as great as theirs? Are we doing enough?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s so easy to compare yourself to your contemporaries and feel like you\u2019re not doing enough. So you stay busy, set goals, keep looking forward, and grind it out\u2026 but when will you know that it\u2019s enough?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019ll only know when you can clearly see how far you\u2019ve come<\/strong>. You must celebrate the wins<\/strong> you\u2019ve made so far and not focus on the ones you haven\u2019t made.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes we’re so busy looking forward that we can\u2019t enjoy the greatness<\/strong> that\u2019s happening now. Shifting your perspective can make all the difference in your current state and the success to come.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

We often face this classic dilemma: what do you really need versus what do you want?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

But what is so wrong about wanting something? Wanting creates an abundance of resources, creativity, and innovation.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because when you want something bad enough, you’re gonna have to figure out how you\u2019re going to get what it is that you want, and put that into action.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We need to feel like there’s freedom in a \u201cwant\u201d\u2014 and that’s okay!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be self determined, find your own successes, and your own criteria to assess yourself by. Shifting your mindset to that of what you want gives you permission<\/strong> to not compare your success to all the super achievers that are all around you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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There’s freedom to be found in this mindset.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

All in all, the shift from \u201cthe gap\u201d to \u201cthe gain\u201d <\/strong>has been liberating for me, because \u2014 even if I find that I\u2019m accomplished and I’ve done a great deal \u2014 it feels like it’s never enough\u2026 and maybe even not good enough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But when I view my life from this new perspective, I recognize how far we’ve come<\/strong> with our business in less than a year. You\u2019re probably doing much of the same thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019re developing your own businesses, your own investment strategies. Take the time to feel good<\/strong> about what you\u2019ve done.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The compounding effect of seeing the positive can train your brain <\/strong>to be specific when describing your desired results.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is within the same realm of defining goals, being clear and specific about your results so that you have a better chance<\/strong> to achieve them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One last insight: always measure backward.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

It goes back to perspective. Doing this gives you a point of reference from where you’ve come.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It also allows you to connect the dots and see where one relationship, one conversation, and even an unexpected meeting\u2026 all of this can put you on the right trajectory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To move the needle.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So how do you begin? Measuring three wins a day. <\/strong>You can do this while journaling. Start with the guide questions and answer:<\/p>\n\n\n\n